This is a followup for https://github.com/9seconds/mtg/issues/412 it
makes sense to manage timers inplace instead of creating for new
goroutines: saves memory

- Use sync.Pool for relay buffers instead of stack-allocated arrays.
  A [16379]byte on the goroutine stack forces Go to grow it to 32KB
  (next power of two). Pooled buffers keep goroutine stacks small.

- Same fix for doppelganger write buffer ([16384]byte in conn.start).

- Replace idle goroutines with context.AfterFunc in proxy.ServeConn
  and relay.Relay. These goroutines existed only to wait on ctx.Done()
  and close connections. AfterFunc achieves the same without allocating
  a goroutine until the context is actually cancelled.

Net effect: at 3000 concurrent connections on a 1-vCPU/961MB VPS,
the unmodified binary drops 246 connections and falls to 10 MB/s.
With these changes: zero failures, 63 MB/s, 31% lower RSS.

Closes #412